I’m a lucky man
Too many times we sit by and let things pass and don’t bring attention to them. Well, at least I do. Am I lazy? Am I afraid of bringing attention to myself?
Regardless, I’m not going to do it today. Today is the 20th anniversary of my wife getting clean and sober. Yep, she was 21 yrs old and already had the need to give up drugs and alcohol, so needless to say, it was a big deal. After all of the roadblocks the universe has put in her way – alcohol & drug addiction, overeating, anxiety, depression, and now health issues with iron and ferratin deficiencies – she is so much more now than when I first met her.
She’s grown, changed, slid back, pulled herself up by her bootstraps, succeeded, failed, and yet through it all is that desire, that will, to be better than the day before. I know that it’s been rough, especially the last year or so with trying to get her anxiety/depression meds right, and her iron levels, but I see more of the woman I fell in love with, wanted to marry, now than I have seen in a long time. She’s understanding, caring, and loving in a way that just hasn’t been possible before. It’s good to see her come out of that battered and unemotional shell.
And she’s been clean and sober now for TWENTY YEARS!
You amaze me honey, I’m so proud of the woman you’ve become and I look forward to the future with you.
Your,
Matthew
December 11th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
That’s wonderful, Matt. Congrats to her! How many years have you two been together?
December 11th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
We met in 1993, married New Years Eve 1994, so we’re coming up on 15 years married
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December 11th, 2009 at 8:10 pm
This post made me smile. And tear up a little. *sniff sniff* I am so happy for Fae at all that she has accomplished, and that she has you by her side to make those accomplishments just a bit easier.
December 13th, 2009 at 9:17 am
That is an impressive accomplishment! Congratulations to Fae! I have a dear friend who was also on the road to recovery at a very young age. She is an amazing and generous person, and what she taught me is that very few fall into addiction for no good reason at all. It is a struggle and a fight to stay sober every day. You have every reason to be proud of Fae.
.-= Terri´s last blog ..Mall Slippers =-.
December 13th, 2009 at 7:10 pm
Good for your wife. Kicking an addiction is no small accomplishment.
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March 1st, 2010 at 6:27 pm
Ok, I’m a few months late…
Matt, honey, thank you so much:) You told me in person everything you wrote here, but I love that you share our lives and have such wonderful feedback.
I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without you. Gillian said “I hope I marry a guy like my Daddy”, and I told her she’d better look hard. Guys like you are more rare than diamonds.
I love you, my husband.