A new friend

We live in a townhouse complex and have been there for about 10 years. Initially we said, “Oh only 5 years, 6 at the most”. Well, several refinances later, a plummet in the housing market right when I got my job 86 miles away, and the reality of knowing that if we had gotten into a place, we’d be living at my inlaws after declaring bankruptcy. ๐Ÿ™‚ Everything works out in the end, right?

So we’ve been okay with the idea that we’ll be in our current place – 3 bedrooms, 2.5 bath, great location, excellent schools – at least until Gillian graduates from high school. Aidan’s starting 8th grade this year, has a lot of friends in the neighborhood and it finding his groove. The last thing I want to do is disrupt that.

Gillian’s problem is, there are only two girls in the complex (there’s about 200+ townhouses) that she’s of an age with and is friendly with. So I was working from home yesterday and she came down to where I was working around 11 yesterday morning. Gloom infused her voice as she said, “Dad, I’m destined to be bored today”. My son had gone out already to do some filming with his friends (they’re making a movie). “NO one’s HOME! I called every single friend and some people I don’t even know that well and NO ONE’S AROUND!”

Queue dramatic faint onto the couch, arm drawn over her face.

“Go out for a bike ride and see if anyone’s around.”
“Dad, G isn’t home, and I don’t want to play with X or Y. *sigh* I’m just gonna go watch a movie”

Well, Aidan came home a few hours later and rescued her with some boardgames and some stuff on the computer until Fae got back from work and we sat and had something to eat. I promised her I would take her over to the pool in our complex at 5:15 when I was done working for the day. So we got our towels and pool stuff and went over to the pool, pausing several times to promise that “Yes, I will go in this time”, and “No, I won’t sit on my phone or read a book – Look, I didn’t even bring one, See?!?”

So what happened? We got to the pool, put down our stuff, and jump in, and 5 seconds later this girl swims up and says “Hi, I’m N, I just moved here a month ago and I don’t know anyone. Are you going to X School next week and are you in 5th grade?”

I had been bugging her to go ride around because something told me that there was someone out there for Gillian. They started talking, and I was good, I stayed in the pool, but after about 15 minutes, I was pretty much ignored ๐Ÿ™‚ Happily on my part because I was just psyched that she had someone to hang out with. She got out after a little while and they went and talked and played on the little playground attached to the pool and were genuinely having a great time. Can’t be happier.

Cool thing we found out as we exchanged numbers so Fae and N’s mom could schedule something since I’ve learned not to because I always mess that up – she lives right in the building across the street.

Fate/God/Gods/Mr. Tree/Universe – Thank you.